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You Alone Have All You Need to Feed Your Unmet Needs
It’s not out there, it’s right here inside
It’s hard to face the truth, but there it is.
Whatever you didn’t get in your childhood, your mother’s love (I’ll tick that box), praise, encouragement, support, trust — only you can provide now that you’re grown up.
If those positive reinforcements that arm us with strength and courage, self-confidence and assertiveness to step into Life without fear as adults, were absent in your life, don’t expect to find them from others.
Harsh but true.
You’ll come across as needy.
If you base your connection with others on wanting something from them, without first giving from yourself — whether it be love, praise, acceptance, money — you will repeat the pattern again and again.
The past will not change
But you can.
I did.
Having spent the first forty years of my life only feeling validated if I received praise or a promotion — I craved positive feedback. Wanted people to value me, accept me and fell into that trap of becoming a people pleaser.
Then my world crashed in my early 40's when depression arose.
