Oh Ted. I used to think sometimes that writing about my beloved was a betrayal of our privacy. Yet the sharing of our "used to be" has helped me accept the loss.

Everything you say here rings true for me too - even those hard times.

I'm grateful to another writer here on Medium who lost her husband years ago for ensuring I had some recordings of his voice. I only have a few voice notes but when I yearn to hear him again, I listen. Not for the content but the sound of his voice. Gives me comfort.

You and I are so alike in our outlook.